Be happy, whether married or single. To be single and unhappy, or married and unhappy, neither one is nice.
Whether you’re single or married doesn’t matter. Clarity of mind and purity of heart are desirable.
You first meet your soul, and then you can find your soulmate also. When you’re in confusion, your mind’s in a cloud all the time. You’re overambitious and self-centered. Then you can’t meet your soul.
If you’ve never met your soul, then your soulmate is far away. If you’re really spiritual, then only the right things get attracted to you.
You should understand that the people who reject anything or anybody are not so intelligent.
The best way to deal with rejection is not to recognize it. Know that they haven’t recognized the goodness in you.
Rejection should be countered by pitying them. See how you can also express yourself better.
In friendship, you’re there to give. In passion, you want to take something.
Passion must be there. That’s okay. But it should be in the background. In the forefront, there should be the willingness to give if you want relationships to work well.
If sex had an impact on spiritual growth, there would’ve been a blanket ban on it. You’d never get spiritually elevated if married. But that’s not the case. Many Rishis and householders have received the Dharma and can attain liberation.
Obsession with sense objects is detrimental. Obsession about food, sex, movies, or whatever, isn’t congenial even for simple, healthy living, let alone for spiritual growth. Moderation and centeredness are necessary.
Nowhere is it said that married couples can’t attain liberation or higher states of consciousness. It isn’t true.
But if you’re draining yourself, day and night, obsessed with sex, no way.
In any relationship, don’t think it should be very flat, always lovey-dovey, sweetie sweetie, and mushy mushy. Imaginary emotional harmony, which we conceptualize through movies and culture, won’t be there. You must face the bitter truth of life.
If you can hold hands in the bitter circumstances that life poses, and move through them together, your bonding becomes strong.
In marriage, there are ups and downs. When downs come, don’t mind it. Usually, if we have 10 good days and one bad day, that bad day dominates memory and life. You must see it from the other side. It’s okay to have one bad day. It brings contrast.
Don’t expect your partner to compliment you all the time. Sometimes they may think you’re a donkey or stupid. If such comments come, take them like spice in your food.
That broadened mindset can only arise if we have common goals to achieve, and attention on the spiritual values of life. Without those two things, life becomes shallow. You lose dignity and depth.
Take some time and go within. If you keep meditating, you don’t store stress and one day pour it on your spouse or partner.
The garbage we collect on a daily basis, we can process it every day, and feel free through meditation. From time to time, come for a silent retreat.
However good, you’re with someone day and night, talking all the time. You must remember to take time for yourself and go into deep silence. Even a few days in a year will rejuvenate you and make you blossom. You’ll be more beautiful.
The need for a romantic relationship arises when the realization of divine love happens. Then you have romance with this entire creation.
The divine isn’t somewhere sitting in heaven, but is at the very core of the whole existence.
So, when you realize you’re connected to the center core, radiating that love from within, and you see it coming in many ways from creation, then there’s juice in life, divine romance.
A romance that doesn’t have any demands and never loses its charm, that’s divine love.
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